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A Book Designed for Distance Caregivers

Whether you live 10, 100 or 1,000 miles away, Managing Elder Care from Afar will help you stay organized, save time and manage your parent’s care from anywhere.

Caregiving can be frustrating.  There are so many things to learn.  Questions you might be struggling with right now:

  • How do I navigate difficult conversations about the need for coordinated care and get past “I refuse to move” discussion enders?
  • How do I get my siblings or other family members to pitch in and help out?
  • How do I know what’s really going on when I can’t be there to see it firsthand?
  • How do I use durable power of attorney to manage my parent’s finances?
  • How do I protect my parent from identity theft?
  • When should I use medical power of attorney to make health care decisions on their behalf?
  • What’s the difference between Medicare and Medicaid?
  • Does my parent need long-term care insurance?
  • What the heck is an “ADL”?
  • Why can’t my parent buckle their own seatbelt anymore?
  • How do I compare eldercare at home with assisted living costs?
  • Why doesn’t my parent’s independent living provide that service?  I thought that was part of the deal!
  • How do I set up and manage in-home caregivers?
  • What are the 5 signs it’s time to consider a move to assisted living?
  • How do I protect my parent’s assets from being taken to pay for assisted living or nursing home care?
  • I don’t have a crystal ball. How on earth can I plan for my parent’s future care?!

Distance caregivers are people who manage care for a loved one primarily by phone, video conferencing, email, and/or the internet. Perhaps you are one already. Or maybe it’s a looming necessity that seems impossible to achieve. But now there’s good news.

Wherever you are in this daunting process, this book will help you manage all aspects of your parent’s care from afar by systematizing as many routine caregiving activities as possible, organizing all the information you need at your fingertips, and documenting things so that others CAN help you.

This book will be especially valuable to those who . . .

…are very busy.

Your days are packed from 6am – midnight and you barely have time to use the bathroom!

Even if you live a short drive from your parent, your busy life – constantly on the go with work, kids, exercise, social life – makes looking after your parent a monumental challenge.This book will help you manage their care from work, home, your kid’s baseball game, the gym parking lot, or anywhere else.

…travel frequently.

You’re often on the road for work or sports or other reasons.

This book will help you automate recurring tasks and set up proactive reminders and alerts to help you stay on top of things even while away. It will also prepare you to dispatch someone to help your parent until you get back to town. Don’t let a mini-crisis cut a trip short because there was no one available to help out.This book will show you how to set up “first responders” who can step in and handle things on your behalf when you can’t be there.

…support a sibling who is the primary caregiver.

You want to help but you aren’t sure how.

If you have access to the internet, you can help in many meaningful ways. Working with your sibling to make it possible, this book will help you identify tasks you can do from a distance and remove some of the burden from your overwhelmed brother or sister.

…are looking ahead and want to be prepared for when your parent will need care.

You don’t want to worry them but you know you need to start having conversations about planning for their future care.

This book will help you figure out the right first steps to take in opening a caregiving conversationwith your parent, such as offering to serve in a financial “backup” role or volunteering to help with complex tasks like shopping for supplemental health insurance.

…are the parent and need a systematic way to help your children manage your future care.

You want to hand your kids a “How to take care of me”guide that will make it easier for them to help you.

This book can serve as that guide. It will help you and your adult children work through emotional decisions in a calm, straightforward waywith practical steps and no-nonsense advice. Having a clear plan will make you and your children rest easier.

You are not alone!

As a caregiver, you face some of the toughest challenges of anyone because you are on duty 24x7x365. I am sending you hugs right now because I imagine you are in desperate need of a break (and probably a big glass of wine).  It can sometimes felt like you are drowning in a sea of unplanned urgent caregiving tasks.

Caregiving is a challenge for your parent as well.  My mom often comments on how odd it is for her to be taken care of by her children when she took care of us for so many years.  She also comments on how bizarre the aging process is noting that “aging isn’t for sissies”!

Being far away magnifies the challenges both you and your parent face.  It makes those tough conversations about coordinating care even harder.  But even though you can’t be there every day, your system is there ensuring things run smoothly.  It is the secret ingredient to providing meaningful care from afar.  I will show you how to get one set up that will work for you.

The caregiving system presented in this book is based on over 10 years of my own experience caring for my parents along with tips, tricks, and advice from many friends who have been in similar situations. These pages are packed with actionable strategies that were born from overcoming the kinds of challenges you are probably dealing with today.

Each chapter is a standalone guide with instructions, tips and examples on how to systematize the routine aspects of a specific issue, be it managing finances, health care, coordinating with family, etc.  Each chapter ends with lessons learned and the critical pieces of information to organize in 4 tools (contacts, password safe, cloud file storage, automated reminders/alerts) you can use securely from anywhere.

Let’s get started!